Choices For Life

The Journey of Healing & Hope

We chose to be foster parents because we wanted to be a positive influence in the life of a child.  This influence began with the very first child who came into our home.  When she first came into our home, she would not look at us, and she appeared very distant.  Now she makes direct eye contact and shows emotion, gives hugs, and acts like a child who isn’t in foster care.

As foster parents you learn to be grateful for the little things.  We received a Valentine’s card that one of our children made for us.  She took so much time decorating it, and she wrote inside that she loves us very much.  We know that we are truly making a difference in this child’s life.

So much can be learned from being a foster parent.  By opening our hearts and home to a child in need, it has taught us a lot about ourselves.  It has taught us that we can do something amazing with our lives and help others that are in need.

Our fondest memory is that of a little girl’s first day in our home.  She could hardly sit still.  You could tell she was full of emotions, very excited to be welcomed into our home. We wanted to take away her pain and make her all better; however, it is something that just takes time.  I (Deborah) understood this. As a little girl I too struggled with things.  My family was very dysfunctional.  Even though I was never in foster care, there were times I felt unheard, unwanted, and unloved.

For many years I did not understand what was normal and healthy.  As I grew older I began to see patterns in my life that reflected that of my dysfunctional family.  I wanted that cycle to be broken.  I began to seek healing for myself, making positive changes, and making my life better.  As much as I hurt when I was a child, I knew someday that I would make something good come from my life and my bad childhood.

I was neglected in so many ways as a child, and I can’t think of a better way to make sure that neglect doesn’t happen to other children.  We want to help foster children who have gone through the same trials and tribulations that I went through.

So my husband and I chose to become foster parents.  We have everything to offer a child in need.  We have a strong, healthy marriage and have plenty of love to give a child while they’re on their journey of healing and hope.